Trust us when we tell you it was out of our control. Send firmly away the instinct to second guess. That instinct is a lie. You may have other struggles, but you don’t know this vulnerability. You’ll never understand this fear. It’s not that we want you to grovel and beg forgiveness for something you never did. But we need you to believe us. To not run when we share what happened. It’s not “drama.” It’s rape. It’s not “baggage.” It’s trauma. And no matter how many memes are posted about the invulnerability of women, honestly, this is something that never goes away.