I’ve never been bothered with body image. I’ve been lucky when the powers that be were dishing out bodies. I’m 6ft 2″, with green eyes and dark hair. And I have a strrrrrong Scottish accent (I roll my “r’s” too! Yup, I do!) I didn’t even know men had a problem with weight until fairly recently. That’s not to say that I haven’t been overweight. I am now, I’m quite large now. But, I’m happily married with a wife and son that love me so it doesn’t bother me. . . too much.
I think when it comes to men our biggest bodily shame is our penises. Yup, these are our little members that tell us whether we’re men or not. You might think this sounds daft, right? But picture us in the school changing rooms when the guys with the humongous willies have them out, slapping their friends with them, laughing and giggling, and making us smaller lads, feel, umm, slightly inadequate. You’ll never find a guy that can’t relate to this. (If you do, these guys have BIG ones!) Still, it’s a trend.
And once we put up with that, then at some point or another we’ll be introduced to porn. And guess what? Even more big willies! And if you’re a guy with an average sized penis, like most of you are, you’ll be walking around feeling like something isn’t right. To compensate for the inadequacy you’ll laugh with your mates, telling them that theirs are smaller than yours and vice versa – it will be a bum fight to own willy supremacy, unless someone gets it out of course, and yup, good luck with that one!
Truth be told women don’t really care about the size of our members; as long as it flicks a switch inside and you learn how to work that magic, then viola. Who cares right?
Sadly, men still do. Many men, a ton of men.
Guess what – those guys in the changing room, it was only one or two, right? And porn, that isn’t real. You aren’t ever going to get a real women to do that kind of stuff. So why care?
A brilliant film (one that I love) is What Women Want. In it, an overtly masculine man is able to listen to the thoughts of women… aaaand they aren’t what he expected!
But that aside, you need to learn to make peace with your member down below. You can’t change him and ignore the TV or the newspapers or whatever it is that’s telling you differently. Your willy is fine; she’ll love it. Learn what makes her work and there will be nothing to worry about.
Don’t be getting it out with your friends to prove a point. Just because you have a big willy doesn’t mean that you’re automatically awesome! Trust me, it’s the personality that makes the man – nothing else. Just be yourself, and if you’re a man worrying about your willy size like I did for almost 27 years of my life. Don’t. Because more than likely it’s average and no-one will care.
Hope this helps a few guys out there!
Raymond Baxter is a relationship writer dedicated to the bettering his knowledge on the human condition. He’s been online since 1996, which makes elevates his status to internet demi-god. Find more from Raymond on his self-titled site, The Relationship Blogger.
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